I don't think this will come out like I want it to but I have to give it a try sometime. I can always fix it later ...
I'm all about experiences. Experiencing Father, Son and Holy Spirit, other people, smells, tastes, sounds, sights, touch .... the 5 senses. Everything we do every day is an experience. Now, weather or not we are engaged with experiencing every moment of every day is a different story. Sometimes it can be hard to stay engaged. It seems the easiest times to stay engaged is when we have an experience with someone or people that raises the bar above the previous standard we had before that experience. This also potentially creates connection between those people as well as understanding. All because of a different, better, higher experience than before.
I may talk a lot about big things in life but I pay real close attention to small things. Like the movement of eyebrows when people are talking, the way peoples mouths move the same exact way every time when they say certain letters or certain phrases, how someone holds their pen, if someone walks with their toes pointed straight out or if a foot is turned out as they move along in this life, facial expressions when reacting to situations, ect ect ...
I also pay attention if people remember to lock my car doors after I've asked them many times and they already know they need to lock them. I have always had to remind everyone to lock my doors even if they have been in my car 50 times. That all changed with one different experience.
It actually took me a while to get used to a person always remembering to lock my car and me not having to remind her. I remember she would get slightly annoyed that I would remind her because I had told her about my slight twitch about me having to tell people about locking my car (I don't know why it's such a deal, but it is. Only with people who know my doors aren't automatic, not people who rid in my car the first time or only have like twice. I'm talkin bout the regulars ... dont get offended guys, you didn't know). Even after I stopped reminding her I would even look at the lock to make sure. She made it a point to lock my car all the time on purpose because she knew my feelings about it so that I wouldn't have to ask her. I havent asked her for prob a year to lock my car door and I have stopped looking at the lock to make sure it was pushed in. I just know she does it. She's the only one I don't have to ask. Different experience.
This is very small in comparison to what it takes in most cases in life to change your mind about someone, something and how him/her/they/it affects you. But this little baby experience solidified my conviction about needing to have positive experiences with people to change our perspectives and the way we relate to people in our lives. If I am hurt from an experience in the past, I have to experience a positive action that will heal that wound. It would be wonderful if it would happen in one encounter but most times we have to experience it more than once.
I bet this might be a reason why God doesn't make things happen instantly for us all the time. He is interested in healing his people by us having wondrous experiences with him and then us having radically different experiences with each other that creates another world for people who don't know Jesus to want to know him. We experience him and changed, we experience each other as a result of experiencing him and people who haven't experienced tangible Jesus yet experience him though us since we have been changed though each other though him.
John 13:34,35 "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
